Chain of Human Behavior Part II

CHAIN OF HUMAN BEHAVIOR PART II

In the Chain of Human Behavior part 1, we covered four of the eight traits that the Chain of Human Behavior consists of. Please read that one if you haven’t. In this blog, we’ll continue with the next one in the shoot…energy.

Energy is just as important as oxygen and life itself. Without energy, nothing happens. But notice that energy is the fourth step in the chain of human behavior. When people lose hope or desire, they lose faith. And when they lose faith, they lose energy. And when they lose energy, they easily become lethargic, apathetic, spiritless, and sad to say, some become suicidal. This is because there’s a lack of some key root input into their lives. If it’s a lack of some key physical input, it could be hormonal or chemically based. If it’s a lack of internal passion, will, or heart, it’s a soul input that's lacking.

Energy has been a heavy topic throughout the world in recent years. In fact, in America and other countries, it’s at the heart of political policies and the economy. Climate change is the big catalyst for national and international talks on energy. Our present world is looking for natural, cost efficient, and most importantly, renewable forms of energy production. Science purports that fossil fuels are putting out more carbon into earth’s atmosphere than the planet can process and manage. And that this anomaly is at the root of climate change and the negative effect it’s having on our planet and subsequently, life as we know it.

Since the day God cursed Adam and Eve, relationships have always dealt with the same renewable energy crisis countries are dealing with today. Successful relationships thrive on renewable energy. And if you’ve read all my blogs up until this one, you’ve read where I’ve shown why and how committed relationships demand and thrive on renewable energy. Committed relationships are both intradependent and interdependent when it comes to energy. And when one or both persons practice behaviors that not only negatively impact their relationship's energy levels, but are behaviors one or both have concluded they wish to change, they must looked to their own Chain of Behavior to make that change. Because our Chain of Behavior initially and naturally produces renewable energy. Why? Because the innate root input processes we exposed in the previous blog continues to reoccur on their own. And because they’re the initial drivers of our behavior, if we don’t reckon with them, they’ll continue to promote renewable energy that’s ear-marked for behavior that negatively impacts our relationships.

This renewable energy starts at the root influence level of the Chain of Behavior process and works its way up the chain until it becomes energy. And this energy is either physical or soul based. Physical energy is about the body’s drive and ability and is based on hormonal, chemical, or electrical processes that ties into one’s physical genetics. And these processes also creates energy that we can feel, which is an emotional energy but physical in nature. Soul energy is based on our mental processes, our passions and desires, and our will, and loves. It too produces emotional energy, which is energy we can feel within but is soul based. And soul energy is often more weightier than physical energy when it comes to amping up our drive and ability. This is one of the reasons people have conquered things they once thought physically impossible.

Because both physical and soul energy types can be interdependent, sometimes overcoming one naturally strengthens the other. For instance, as a promiscuous person's hormonal amperage for sex declines, he or she may find him or herself less promiscuous. This may be something they soulfully tried to overcome on their own but struggled. Then again, a person whose soul is painfully dysfunctional because of the undesirable upbringing he or she had may find themselves being promiscuous. And not because they have a high sex drive. But, because constantly being with someone treats his or her soul’s symptoms, he or she is willing to be with whosoever will, even if it means having multiple partners. But when what is ailing him or her on the inside is fixed, that drive for promiscuity goes away.

However, one tall order concerning stemming the flow of energy towards unwanted behavior is us dealing with our root congenital influences. How does one change them if they're undesirable? I don't think it's so much the organic trait that needs to be changed. I think it more so how it's perceived, managed, and metabolized that needs changing. For instance, remember the example of the 9-month-old baby girl and her congenital traits? Remember the examples showing how family dysfunction could negatively or positively sway her organic root traits of independence, courage, and self-drive as she got older? It's the same here.

When energy for certain behaviors that we determine are unhealthy or are not beneficial for our relationship are very strong, we must be determined and fully persuaded to redirect that energy to a more positive place. This will mean guiding those organic tendencies toward more rewarding and constructive behaviors. This could mean changing our environment, our routines, and the people we associate with, including family. Doing so will not be easy for a couple of reasons.

One, because energy buildup is so addictive, overpowering, and so readily consumable because it's a part of us. And it feels so real...because it is. And it's as volatile as a room full of gas vapors before striking a match. And whether it's physical or soul energy, when it's stored and ready to go, it pulls and tugs on us like nobody's business. All we have to do is say yes, and boom...we're knee deep into an energy explosion and release that send us into a behavioral high that we can't even regret until that high is over and the unwanted consequences come a knockin'. A firm resistant "NO!" is it's only natural enemy. And how do we tell ourselves no, when we're sitting on the equivalent of 12000 volts of natural raw energy? It's like the energy high in the form of temptation that one might get from being in a room with a million dollars of some one else's money, and flat out knowing he or she could walk away with all of it and no one would ever be the wiser.

Two, what makes it so difficult are habits. In previous blogs, I've covered how our subliminal soul works. One reason habits are hard to break is because they're a part of our subliminal soul. What this means is we no longer have to consciously think about an action to do it. This is the realm of human behavior we naturally adapt to because it burns the least amount of conscious energy, which is what we need for more present and newer task. And to help change behaviors we deem problematic or unbeneficial, we must consciously focus on applying the methods mentioned above to reassociate our congenital traits with more worthy behavior. And doing so is one of the truest definition of work. Because the higher the resistance, the more energy must be applied to overcome that resistance. And changing subliminal habits and behavior is highly resistant to change and the work or effort that such change requires. And human behavior doesn't easily gravitate to this sort of work.

In conclusion, energy is very powerful in the Chain of Behavior process. And when we wish to change our behavior for the sake of our relationship, it can be very difficult to do so when the energy that supports that behavior is still naturally being produce. This is why knowing what the root cause of the energy flow is, is so important. And this is why I say that if a person cheated once, they will most likely to cheat again. Because if the root source for the energy that led them to cheat hasn’t been redirected, they will find it too difficult not to when given the opportunity. And this is also why I say people cheat to meet some need or want. And when we follow their Chain of Behavior from its root origin, we can know what this need and want is and where this energy is coming from, be it physical or soul. Last, we must be convinced of the necessity for a change in behavior on an individual level first before we can be convinced of it on the relationship level. Meaning, if the change doesn't first meet our individual needs and wants, we'll most likely be unsuccessful at making this change for the sake of our relationship.

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